Meghan Markle adopted 'graciously regal' gestures as she 'took the lead' at women in leadership event in Abuja, body language expert claims

Meghan Markle has adopted ‘graciously regal’ gestures and ‘took the lead’ at solo event in Nigeria, a body language expert has revealed.

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex kicked off their 72-hour visit of the West African nation on Friday, and the tour appears to be a huge success, with Meghan ‘create small moments of gracious connections’ as she arrived at a Women in Leadership event on Saturday.  

Speaking to FEMAIL, communications pro Judi James explained that the mother-of-two is ‘pitching herself as a role-model who has “”come home” to inspire young Nigerian girls’.

She added: ‘Her back was straight, her shoulders and arms pulled back and her pace of walk was slow as she threw a beaming smile around the room or touched people she passed to create small moments of gracious connection. 

‘Meghan also uses steering and directional gestures that made it look as though either she was the host or that she led the protocol, gesturing another guest into her seat before waiting for her own chair to be pulled back for her by what looked like one of the guards.’

Meghan Markle has adopted ‘graciously regal’ gestures and ‘took the lead’ at solo event in Nigeria , a body language expert has revealed

Meghan, who appeared ‘cool and elegant’, was warmly welcomed as she took to the stage for her speech, where she ‘performed another regal-looking greeting ritual’.

Judi added: ‘Meghan’s talk came with some emphatic hand rituals that did seem to be used to make her statements look and sound more profound. 

‘Her line ”Never in a million years will I understand as much as I do now” might have been puzzling in terms of comprehension but the way her hand performed a baton gesture with a downward pat to signal emphasis defined how profound she was being.

Her role-model status came with raised brows and a raised hand for similar emphasis although her words were clearer as she told her audience her simpler but inspirational message of ”She looks like me, I can do that”.

The Duchess was speaking at a Women in Leadership event she was co-hosting with Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Director General of the World Trade Organization. 

During her speech Meghan said she fulfilled her dream of becoming a parent as she opened up about her ‘very chatty, sweet children’ Archie, five and Lilibet, two.

Meghan told the audience how much she loves being a mother but admitted that balancing her family and her career posed its own set of challenges.

‘Meghan also uses steering and directional gestures that made it look as though either she was the host or that she led the protocol’, according to Judi

Meghan ‘created small moments of gracious connections’ as she arrived at a Women in Leadership event on Saturday

Meghan ‘threw a beaming smile around the room or touched people she passed to create small moments of gracious connection’, according to Judi 

The Duchess of Sussex walked alongside Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, right, Director-General of the World Trade Organization

Meghan was speaking at a meeting with Nigerian female industry leaders at an event

Meghan was asked how she juggled being a mother with her career and she replied: ‘I love being a mum.’

Despite being told more than ten years ago by her friend and mentor that she would never be able to balance the demands of motherhood and her work, the 42-year-old duchess said she enjoys being a mother and her priorities are constantly changing.

During the panel discussion, Meghan said that ‘balance’ in her life has changed over the years and looks different to ten years ago before she was married and had Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet.

She said: ‘What I think that to mean now is that that balance will always change for you. That balance, what seems balanced ten years ago is going to shift.’ according to Hello.

During the Q&A session, Meghan also thanked Nigerians for welcoming her to ‘my country’ and she said she hopes she can ‘do justice’ to being a ‘role model’.

The Duchess of Sussex, who recently discovered she is ’43 per cent Nigerian’, wowed crowds as she and Prince Harry continue their whirlwind ‘royal’ tour to the African nation.

Meghan and Harry pictured with Archie and Lilibet

Meghan, pictured with Archie and Lilibet, also thanked Nigerians for welcoming her to ‘my country’ and she said she hopes she can ‘do justice’ to being a ‘role model’

Meghan arrived to the women in leadership summit in a spaghetti strapped red dress without her husband Prince Harry.

She told the audience: ‘I want to start by saying thank you very much for just how gracious you’ve all been in welcoming my husband and I to this country… my country.’

She also added: ‘I am just flattered and honored and inspired. It has been a whirlwind 24 hours since we arrived, and I very quickly got the memo that I need to wear more colour, so I can fit in with all of you and your incredible fashion.’

When asked how she felt after discovering she was 43% Nigerian through a genealogy test, Meghan said the first thing she did was ‘call my mom, because I wanted to know if she had any awareness of it.’

Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, pictured with Mo Abudu during the event on Saturday

This is the second day of the Duchess’ tour of Nigeria with her husband Harry

Meghan told the audience: ‘I want to start by saying thank you very much for just how gracious you’ve all been in welcoming my husband and I to this country… my country’

Meghan went on: ‘Being African-American, part of it is really not knowing so much about your lineage or background, where you come from specifically.

‘And it was exciting for both of us to discover more and understand what that really means. Never in a million years would I have understood it as much as I do now.

‘It’s been really eye-opening and humbling to be able to know more about my heritage and to be able to know this is just the beginning of that discovery.’

Defining Nigerian women as ‘brave, resilient, courageous, powerful, beautiful’, Meghan said: ‘It is the most flattering thing to be in that company, to be in your company.’

She also added: ‘I often find that whatever travels I’ve done, regardless if it’s Nigeria or another country around the world, oftentimes when women reach the peak of success, they leave. 

‘But you need to come back home. You need to at least be a familiar face for the next generation to say: “Oh, she looks like me – and I can be that.”

‘And I think that is a really key piece in all of it… It’s defined by, and you still always want to come back home, because that’s how you’re going to help shift any sort of generational pattern that might be stifling, especially for young girls who need to see someone who looks like them in that same position.’

After being told by a moderator that she had ‘come home’, Meghan replied: ‘I hope that I could do justice to the role model that I think so many young women deserve to have.

‘Obviously in the face of all of you here, I know that they, they see that. But being able to be a small part of that means a lot.’

Meghan Markle wowed crowds in Nigeria as she wore a shoulder less St Agni full length white dress to a lunch with the Nigerian defence minister

Meghan seemed engaged in a delightful conversation with one of the party guests as she attended the reception with the Nigerian chief of defence staff Christopher Musa

Meghan is pictured next to five other female dinner guests as she attended a lunch with Minister of Defence in Abuja Nigeria

Harry was also pictured at the event wearing a cream linen suit and at one point was heard joking with a guest who was wearing a black tuxedo: ‘Love your jacket. I want it.’

Meghan and Harry look on during the dance performances in Abuja on Saturday

The Duke gave a speech thanking his hosts, saying it was an ‘immense honour’ to be in Nigeria

They sat in specially marked chairs during the assembly at the Nigerian Defence Headquarters

Earlier today, Meghan wowed crowds again as she attended a lunch with the Nigerian defence minister. 

Wearing a shoulderless St Agni full length white dress Meghan drew gasps from onlookers as she walked into the officers mess for the reception with the Nigerian chief of defence staff Christopher Musa.

Harry had a cream linen suit and was heard joking with one guest who was wearing a black tuxedo: ‘Love your jacket. I want it.’

After being seated the British and Nigerian national anthems were played with the couple facing a stage decorated with red, white and blue balloons.

The lunch event came shortly after Harry and Meghan attended a sitting volleyball match and were mobbed by fans as they carried on their Nigeria visit – which has become a royal tour in all but name. 

Guests at the lunch were able to choose from five different menus including special fried rice, fish fillet sauce and jollof rice.

There was cow offal with ofada sauce or if you they were reluctant to try the traditional Nigerian menu they could opt for spaghetti bolognese or grilled chicken.

A dance troupe entertained guests with music and rhythmic drumming with Harry and Meghan tapping and swaying to the beat.

A giant poster on the stage was perhaps not the best choice as it featured a rather stern looking Duke and Duchess of Sussex.

During the lunch Abike Dabiri-Erewa of the Nigerians in Diaspora Commission gave a warm tribute to Meghan and her west African heritage – although she got her title wrong.

She said: ‘Princess Meghan, we want to thank you for coming home and Prince Harry thank you for bringing her home.

‘You have married a sister of ours and we hope that you come home again, again and again.’

Meghan is a Princess of the royal family, but she is not entitled to call herself Princess Meghan.

She was given the title after marrying Prince Harry -e Duchess of Sussex by the late Queen Elizabeth and the title Princess as she wasn’t born into the royal family.

Noticeably the Duke and Duchess appeared not to eat anything on offer and at times the lunch descended into chaos with a disco beat thumping in the background.

Harry is lead into the into the officers mess hall where he dined with the Nigerian defence minister earlier today

Meghan also accompanied the Prince as she wowed crowds with a shoulder less St Agni full length white dress

Harry and his wife Meghan at a lunch with Minister of Defence in Abuja Nigeria

Meghan looked blown away as she watched the entertainment during a lunch with the Nigerian defence minister

Harry and Meghan couldn’t contain their delight as the watched dancers perform during their lunch in Nigeria today

Harry and Meghan can be seen watching in awe of a group of dancers as they dined with the Nigerian defence minister on Saturday 

A group of dancers provided the entertain for the lunch event attended by the Duke and Duchess in Nigeria on Saturday

Members of the dance troupe were seen climbing on each others shoulders as they attempted to create a human pyramid 

In an amazing feat of strength the dancers were able to scramble on top of each other’s shoulders and form a human pyramid, wowing crowds who watched on in awe

Meghan and Harry attend a Sit Out at the Nigerian Defence Headquarters in Abuja on May 11

Prince Harry holds aloft a uniquely designed green shirt as he attends a lunch with the Minister of Defence in Abuja, Nigeria

Meghan unveils an stylish orange necklace during a reception with the Nigerian defence minister 

Harry and his wife Meghan at a lunch with the Minister of Defence in Abuja, Nigeria 

The couple listened to stories from several amputees and among them was lance corporal Peacemaker Azuegbulam, 27, who lost his left leg while fighting.

He told MailOnline: ‘I am excited that Harry and Meghan are here and I have been inspired by their vision in the Invictus Games.

‘Like him I have given selfless service and am now in a military hospital, but I hope to take part in the Invictus Games and encourage my e fellow wounded comrades there is ability in our disability.’

The event which ran over by almost an hour had the couple’s entourage frantic as Meghan was due to take part in a Women in Leadership event at 3pm – but they were still at the lunch with ten minutes to go.

Meghan was due to speak at the private event with Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala of the World Trade Organisation – but as she was due to take the stage they were being presented with an array of brightly coloured shirts and dresses.

Earlier in a five minute speech Harry had thanked his hosts and said it was an ‘immense honour’ to be in Nigeria where the ‘reception and energy have been remarkable’.

He also paid tribute to 16 men from the 181 Amphibious Battalion who were killed in a peace mission in Nigeria’s Delta region in March.

He said: ‘Their sacrifice showed the true cost of service and the profound impact of conflict on children and nations alike.’

Harry also praised Nigeria for its commitment to the Invictus Games and said that he had ‘goosebumps’ from hearing the ‘efforts being made’ by the country to build facilities for wounded soldiers.

He added: ‘Uniting our efforts we can make remarkable progress in acknowledging sacrifices made by our military personnel.’

Harry then joked: ‘We know move onwards to Lagos where they may be some dancing and I thank you for your hospitality.’

Security has been tight for the visit by the Duke and Duchess of Sussex 

A Nigerian soldier sits in a turret position outside the headquarters of the Nigerian defence forces

Earlier in the day Meghan sparked mayhem as she turned up to the exhibition volleyball match in an embroidered £2,275 Joanna Ortiz Tropicana Nights dress, patterned with black and white palm leaves as she tried to beat the 35c heat.

The outdoor volleyball match at the Officers Mess was their first official engagement on Saturday and once again the couple were the centre of attention.

Meghan was happy to pose for selfies – at one point being lost amongst the crowd – and some were even reduced to tears after meeting her.

Meanwhile Harry also delighted onlookers when he took part in a game. However unfortunately his Nigeria Unconquered team ended up losing 21-25 to the Chief of Defence staff squad with all the players being wounded military personnel. 

The Sussex Squad – a group of Harry and Meghan fans – were out in force as they cheered the Duke and Duchess on their arrival just before midday.

Aptly named Royalty Ojeh, six, was chosen to present a stem of roses to Meghan who pulled one out of the bunch and handed it back to the awe-struck little girl.

As they arrived there were loud cheers from a group of fans holding up placards reading ’43 per cent Nigerian’ in a nod to Meghan’s recent admission of her west African heritage. 

Harry delighted fans as he took part in the sitting volleyball exhibition match – even if he wasn’t able to fend off his opponents’ victory

Meghan appeared in close conversation with her hosts as she watched Harry play, wearing a huge grin

The couple looked focused as they watched on at the sitting volleyball exhibition match in the Nigerian capital

In one adorable moment, Meghan exchanged a red rose with one young fan, who shyly met the Duches

Harry and Meghan are seen greeting doting fans as they arrived for the seated volleyball exhibition match in Nigeria 

The outdoor volleyball match at the Officers Mess was their first official engagement on Saturday and once again the couple were the centre of attention

Harry was seen getting stuck into the sitting volleyball game although in the end his team suffered a narrow defeat

Harry pictured with his Nigeria Unconquered team who ended up losing 21-25 to the Chief of Defence staff squad

Prince Harry was in awe of the skills on show at the volleyball match in Nigeria today

Harry and Meghan can be seen watching a volley ball game on the sidelines as they were surrounded by adoring fans

Prince Harry is seen taking part in one of the seated volleyball matches with other players

Harry was seen in suspense as he waited for a member of his team to serve the ball from behind him 

Sitting on the ground he joined the Nigeria Unconquered team for a huddle and motivational high five before getting stuck in

Harry appears to shout with another member of the Nigerian volleyball teams as he poses for a picture with some of the players and fans 

Harry and Meghan smile for the camera as they take a photo with a group of volleyball players and charmed fans

Others jokingly said ‘Harry you owe us dowry’ with London based Michela Rituc explaining: ‘ It’s traditional for dowry and Meghan is Nigerian so he owes us.

‘When she announced her heritage, I already knew it you can just tell from the mother’s face and the grandmother’s face, definitely eastern Nigerian.

‘The features say it all and the whole country melted when she said it, she is our daughter, our daughter and we couldn’t be happier.

‘We have always loved Meghan, ever since we saw her in Suits and we are so happy she has come home to visit us.’

As he took to the pitch to join in with Invictus game board member David Wisey, Harry took off a green and white Nigerian scarf he had been given before enthusiastically joining in.

Sitting on the ground he joined the Nigeria Unconquered team for a huddle and motivational high five before getting stuck in.

Many of the players – who included men and women – were amputees and Meghan looked on clapping and cheering as Harry and his team.

But it was the Nigerian Chief of Defence staff team who took the match and there were smiles and hugs all round at the end as Harry and Meghan met the players.

As with the defence headquarters meeting on Friday at times there were chaotic scenes as Meghan was engulfed by excited fans in pop star style scenes.

Harry – who at times appeared concerned – continually cast a vigilant eye towards his wife as their US and American security team tried to keep control.

A source close to the couple told MailOnline: ‘They are so happy to be in Nigeria and having a great time. Everyone has been so welcoming towards them and they are really feeling the warmth of the people.

‘As far as they are concerned it’s been a fantastic trip and they couldn’t be happier.’

On Sunday the couple will travel to Lagos where they will watch a basketball match and also attend a fundraising event at the city’s polo ground before returning to Britain on Monday and onwards to California.

The spectacle comes as the couple enjoy the second day of their 72-hour tour of the African nation, the day after Harry and Meghan delighted schoolchildren when they visited the Wuse Lightway Academy.

Prince Harry and his wife Meghan at a sitting volleyball exhibition match today in Abuja, Nigeria

Harry hears as he urges on the Invictus athletes – as Meghan looks delighted beside him

Harry’s Nigeria Unconquered team ended up losing 21-25 to the Chief of Defence staff squad with all the players being wounded military personnel

Meghan was left thrilled as she was presented with a painting by her adoring young fans

The Duchess joyfully posed with onlookers – including one young girl, dressed up smartly in a white dress and matching bow

The Duke was all smiles as he got stuck in and battled hard in front of a delighted audience

Members of the Nigeria Unconquered team can be seen here on the left, dressed in yellow, while players on the Chief of Defence staff squad are seen wearing black

It was Meghan who really sparked mayhem as she turned up in a strip Joanna Ortiz shoulder less dress to beat the 35c heat and humidity

Meghan has earned the love of her hosts – with one group of fans holding up placards reading ’43 % Nigerian’ in a nod to Meghan’s recent admission of her west African heritage

Harry is seen giving a slight smirk, while sitting next to Meghan who appears to have a huge grin on her face

One adoring fan holds a sign reading 43% Nigerian in a nod to Meghan’s recent admission of her west African heritage

Many of the players – who included men and women – were amputees and Meghan looked on clapping and cheering as Harry and his team. Pictured: Harry and Meghan pose up with their hosts

One adoring fan holds a copy of Harry’s memoir spare – maybe she was lucky enough to get it signed by the Prince himself 

Harry spoke to a group of pupils at the school – which is supported by the couple’s Archewell Foundation – about mental health, and referenced when someone has ‘lost a loved one in your family and you don’t know who to turn to or who to speak to’.

The Duke – who was 12 and his brother William 15 when Diana died in Paris in 1997 – added that there was ‘no shame to be able to acknowledge that today is a bad day’,

He also told the children: ‘You can have it, she (Meghan) can have it, I can have it. They can have it. Every single one of us is likely to have it on any given day.’

The couple flew in together just before 5am following a secret reunion at London Heathrow’s VIP Windsor Suite on Thursday after the Duchess arrived from Los Angeles.

It comes after Harry said it was ‘great’ to be back in the UK this week to celebrate the 10th anniversary of the Invictus Games. The Duke had been in London since Tuesday to attend events relating to the competition including a thanksgiving service.

The Sussexes, visiting Nigeria together for the first time, were seated in the first class section of the Boeing 777 and were kept apart from other passengers by a curtain.

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